Wednesday, 23 October 2013

Yesterday ......

..... we celebrated the life of my sweetheart Graham with tears and laughter with many of his friends and family.  Graham was a great lover of nature, loved solitude and to sit alone in the park feeding the birds and squirrels, so I wanted the flowers for his funeral to reflect that love with a "woodland" theme and I was not disappointed - they were beautiful.  Here are pictures of the flower heart and pillow from myself and Max (including one of Mia deciding to investigate - and pull out - some of the twiggy bits from the flower pillow)!

Both myself and Lindsay spoke during the service - I chose to finish with a reading of the poem:-

Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow,
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room,
I am in the birds that sing,
I am in each lovely thing.
Do not stand at my grave bereft
I am not there, I have not left.

(Mzry Elizabeth Frye)

The other quote we chose, by Hunter S Thompson, an American author, was read by Lindsay and would have been totally approved of by Graham:-

"Life should not be a journey to the grave
with the intention of arriving safely
in a pretty and well preserved body,
but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming
'Wow! What a Ride!' "

The piece of music we chose for the middle of the service was "Don't Cry Alone" - Robin Gibb's Titanic Requiem - which you can hear if you click on this link.

It was a big day yesterday and today I'm spending it quietly at home, with my own thoughts and memories of the 35 years Graham and I shared together.

(I still have the dress I wore on our wedding day but I'm afraid it doesn't fit me anymore)!

Friday, 18 October 2013

Time to Say Goodbye

Thank you to everyone who has sent words of comfort and condolence to me - so much appreciated.

Graham's funeral will take place at 1.30 pm next Tuesday, 22nd October, in the beautiful church of St Chad's in the heart of the village of Poulton-le-Fylde.  All are welcome.

Tuesday, 8 October 2013

Goodnight My Love

No more suffering for my soul mate and the love of my life - Graham passed away swiftly and in my arms, at home, at 3.30 this morning.  

25.4.50 - 8.10.13

At last the pain is all gone, my love - no more nightmares, only sweet dreams - 
will love and miss you always and forever.